human attraction
why is human attraction such a fucked up situation. Why cant people just say what the feel, do what they want, and not have regrets or qqualms about it later. Why do we instead terrorize ourselves with the games and rules of dating and such. I dont understand it. I dont relaly enjoy it. But we humans have no choice. Relationships are a mystery to me. But i think that i like that they are that way. I really do not want to know how the game works per say. But i just wish that it didnt exist. I hate that emotions and thoughts play such a crucial role in the relationship game. I just dont understand why people cant just be honest and upfront.
It is funny when you take different people, some outgoing, some shy, some ignorant, some indifferent, some cocky, some gorgeous, and you put them in a room and watch them interact. Egos get so involved that each person cannot even control who they are. They have their egos constantly fighting against one another. If people would drop the acts and stop thinking that they need to put on a facade in order to attract someone i thnk that relationships would come much more natural and easier. Maybe one day we will all realize this…
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i really like this post, and the fact that you are aware of these games. hope you don’t mind the comment but i am extremely entertained by human interaction.
from my observation as a part time/volunteer teacher, many people do not communicate with each other, rather to each other – they talk to each other for the sake of getting out their views and opinions and therefore feel validated for doing that. egos come in when people feel like their view is threatened without them being ready to change it yet.
in basic terms people are not neutral to other points of views because of all the influences in their own upbringing or current surroundings and not recognizing what their own truth is in present time. it’s the most obvious for people born in very religious or political families who just take their families’ views as absolute truth without having experienced or seeing through the other points of view. because one point of view is so familiar, anything that isn’t in affinity with that view is demonized or resisted. it’s also much easier to go with a group mentality to feel like you belong an you’re not a pariah.
i think what it really comes down to is people recognizing themselves, discovering who they are. When people go really deep into themselves they start to realize they are not the only ones who exist, and can see the world around them. it might be cliche but Ghandi’s words of “be the change you seek” is absolutely true to me.
what do you think?